Blocking: a necessary conversation with (and for) parents

No matter how old you are, mind the exceptions, you probably have a whole list of things you want to avoid, along with situations you wish you didn’t see and people whose problems you distance yourself from for the sake of your mental health – peace of mind or chill, so to speak. I’m not here to talk about how action figures are bad and games are good; I personally used to like Lego, but there’s a thing called Minecraft now. Besides the problem that gender plays a role in children’s past time in ways we hadn’t really anticipated, there’s also a social element to how we spend our upbringing embracing and renouncing boredom: a pool party sounds great, just please don’t take any pictures. And I am here, once again, talking about how society shapes body image. The solutions are already there: buy crayons, don’t spend so much on a freaking pen. Yet, a considerable amount of teenagers are more interested in the look on your face than the actual anime plot. Tired of reading? It’s okay, but tell me how you’d solve all that. Honestly, maybe you have a better idea, and I think we’re in a good time to acknowledge that listening to people more often than sharing your own stuff is a skill required for life in general, not just workplace – you know, the place where you spend most of your life.

When a person is up to no good, is it a want to belong? I don’t know. I never learned how to play snare rolls, properly relaxing my hands and letting the stick drop with a fine touch of the balance spot controlling it with the pinch, but snares are easily replaced with metal cowbells, especially in my neighborhood. So do I read more about jazz to learn how to have more independence and lower the volume or should I get busy with riffs and scales? Cause that’s what you get when you let the right win. I’m joking, of course. But here’s the catch: technology is able to transform society for the better; what we need to be alert to, or at least engage in some debate on, is how the door closes on those who can’t seem to understand a few rules in communication, which may or may not be broken. Topic at hand: cooperation with law enforcement; deconstructive effort: screw you, I won’t do what you tell me. It’s not always a push and pull thing, speaking as a drummer. And I’m sorry if you’re confused, but that means some of what happens online stays online; some of it doesn’t. When someone breaks a rule in basketball, there’s a foul or violation; in golf, not so much. But the question is: in a world where online sex has the status of fake taboo (mind the freaking exceptions), what are we supposed to do to protect kids, plain and simple, from unwanted interactions? For some, the question is not sexuality at all; for many, it sure is. And while I certainly don’t judge the Pussy Cat Dolls for their hit song, don’t you think talking about how you feel is important, and parents need to teach, along with teachers, how to deal with relationships online, which are definitely not always based on love, trust or sex?

You can see how many people just block other people. You can also see how many accounts are created every day (not us, but someone). If I can’t buy the pair of shoes I want, maybe I’ll stick with the one I have for longer and focus on what’s priority, which might be a phone, today. Some people don’t think about shoes or phones. But the technology leaders we have are well aware of what community needs are, and some might say social media is a big distraction from buying and selling. Do we go back to the argument that selling your body is part of this process, often unjust, not to say humiliating? Maybe not. People make choices, mind the exceptions. So there’s a few things we can do: when we want something we can’t have, it’s not a given that we’re going to change our minds, but time fixes things. Today, I don’t want to read about a hearing in Congress, because I think it’s good to know what Congress does first, in case I think that’s a priority. Politics can be toxic, just like spam, but not quite, my brother. If we can make sure the technologies that led us to a better assessment of necessary knowledge to build things and movements that can bring positivity, empowerment, solidarity, love and understanding to those we care about are also going to help us find these essential components of our lives, maybe we shouldn’t be using the tools to spread their opposites with such a concerning frequency. We can be coherent, accountable and respecting, as long as we keep in mind nobody is all the time. How we’re going to categorize the merit of this conversation is what matters, so we can visualize a future where people are not left behind.


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